Here is a look at some of the most common alpha male character traits:
Body
Moving Slowly
In general, slow down. Moving slowly projects confidence and power whereas moving quickly projects nervousness and fear. Move as if you’re underwater. This also goes for your eyes – keep a steady gaze instead of darting them around.
Not Reacting
Don’t react too much. Think of every movement as a conscious decision. Think before you act. This shows that you have a solid, stable core.
Being Open
Maintain an open and relaxed posture. There’s a behavioral phenomenon among human beings such that we instinctively mirror the body language of those around us to remain in rapport. When you look comfortable, people around you will adopt your body language and become comfortable as well.
On an evolutionary level, an open posture means that you’re vulnerable to attacks, so by doing it you show others that you’re powerful and aren’t afraid of external threats.
Taking Up Space
Take up more space. Lean back and sit with an arm outstretched. Don’t cross your arms unless you’re doing it specifically to be playful.
You should stand tall and with your feet firmly planted into the ground at shoulder width.
As with most of these concepts, you don’t want to overdo it. According to body language experts, one of the most negatively viewed male postures from a female perspective is the seated open crotch posture.
EYES
Having Good Eyes
Arguably the most important skill to have as an alpha male and one of the toughest alpha male character traits to develop. What do your eyes look like when you are smiling? Go look in the mirror. You want to have those eyes, but without actually smiling.
Can you see the difference?
Having a Steady Gaze
In most cases, the eyes can be a fairly good indicator of what’s going on in someone’s head. That’s why you should try to keep your gaze steady and slow-paced to convey a relaxed and confident demeanor. When you walk into a room, be especially careful to limit your movement. When your eyes are darting around, it usually comes across that you are anxious and your mind is racing (e.g. looking around for someone you know or potential threats).
Not Breaking:
You should never be the first one to disengage because it is usually perceived as low confidence. If you’re going to break eye contact, it’s much better to look to the right or left than it is to look down.
Double Taking:
A great seduction technique is to break eye contact by looking to the right or left, and then looking back after about a second. It shows that you’ve found the woman interesting and it’ll make you stand out in her memory.
Controlling Contact:
When you’re talking to someone, your eye contact shouldn’t be constant (i.e. murder stare). Optimal is about 70%. The other 30% of the time, you should be looking around the eyes and on other parts of the face. Briefly looking down at the lips can be a good way to show a woman you’re interested but should be used sparingly to avoid coming off as sleazy.
You can build up this skill by maintaining eye contact with women as you pass them on the street.
Being Comfortable:
If eye contact feels uncomfortable at first, here are a few tricks:
-Focus on the point of the face where the imaginary unibrow would meet. Try this on a friend and they’ll think you’re looking into their eyes.
-Move from left eye to right eye. Not only does this help maintain eye contact, it actually creates the illusion that your eyes are sparkling. Since your eyes are not perfectly spherical, when they shift, the light bounces off them in a slightly different direction- creating a sparkle.
Be cautious – some people notice this and find it annoying.
-Count the number of times they blink.
-Figure out the eye color of every person you meet.
These are temporary techniques to help you get started. Eventually, you want to be totally comfortable with keeping good eye contact.
Selecting Contact
Not everyone gets to be given your eye contact. Sometimes we look at people when we want their approval. Avoid doing this.
In group settings, you can usually tell who the alpha male is by watching the eye contact of all the males. The alpha males tend to look at others LESS than others look at him. They’re selective about who they give their eye contact to, and when they do give it it’s not to get approval.
MOUTH
Having a good smile
Dr Jack Brown, a leading body language expert says the most important thing piece of advice for a good smile is to lead with the eyes. If you do that, the mouth will follow.
A sincere smile will not show the bottom teeth and the forehead should be relaxed. Another crucial sign of a genuine smile is if the eyes are slightly squinted and engaged.
Bottom teeth will almost never show in a sincere smile.
Laughing
Laughter projects comfort and confidence. Don’t fake it, but get comfortable with laughing out loud (technical term is LOLing).
VOICE
Having a Good Voice
A strong voice is one of the most overlooked areas in becoming an alpha male. Many women say that voice is the first thing they notice in a man.
Have you ever noticed that your voice is deeper in the morning? This is because your vocal chords are in a fully relaxed state after sleeping. Your voice becomes higher pitched when you’re tense.
This is one of the reasons why a deeper voice is more attractive: it shows that you’re relaxed and confident.
There are a few immediate ways to get a deeper voice. Relax your shoulders. Hold your hand on your stomach and picture that area as the source of your voice instead of your upper chest or throat.
You should speak slowly and emphatically while adding pauses to keep attention.
If you notice yourself getting anxious, concentrate on slowing down your speech.
Humming is a great exercise to deepen the voice.
Gesturing
Gestures project sincerity, confidence, and credibility. Get comfortable by first using them around people you know.
Strong Holding
The dominant person in the relationship will always hold with their hand in front of the other’s.
